Charleston's Jim Dent Dinner

 

	Charleston's Jim Dent Dinner Celebrating Good Health and Good Humor, Tuesday, Oct 20, 2009, 6pm, at the Embassy Suites. A benefit for Kanawha Pastoral Counseling
	Anthony Griffith Our entertainer will be the comedian, Anthony Griffith. See a clip of his humor at our webpage: click here
	Kanawha Pastoral Counseling Center KPCC is an accredited, faith-sensitive, counseling center with a staff of seven licensed counselors. We have office locations in Charleston, Cabin Creek, Ravenswood, and Chapmanville, West Virginia. 304-346-9689

 

When a Friend Needs Help

When a Friend Needs Help:

How to Make a Referral for Counseling

I get a fair number of calls ever month from concerned family members, friends, and bosses on how send someone they are concerned about to counseling.

Counseling is often considered "the help that nobody wants," so I understand the problem. Won't they be hurt or offended? What if they get angry at me?

While they might, especially if you are trying to send them to something they have no interest in!



Here is my guiding principle in situations like this: Don't ask someone to do something you are not willing to do yourself.

Instead of advising them to go to counseling, why not consider asking them to go with you to see a counselor?


This solves several problems:

1. You, the concerned friend, can set up the appointment yourself, you don't have to wait and wonder if they are going to do it or not.
2. You can offer to take the person. Going to a first session is hard enough, sometimes people are glad to have the company.
3. You, as a concerned friend, will be able to describe to the counselor your perspective of the situation, and how it is affecting you.
4. After your concern has been laid on the table, your hurting friend might be willing to continue the session with the counselor without you. If your friend feels a good fit with the counselor, they might even continue, and hopefully, get the help that will make a difference!

Here is what an initial dialog might look like:

"John, I'm worried about what happened yesterday, and I am wondering if you would come with me to meet with someone to talk about it?"

Now John still might say "No way," but at least you have opened up the dialog, and you have done it in a way that puts you and John on the same footing. John will probably remember your kindness, and might even follow up on with you about your offer at some point in the future.

Wishing you a great day!

Sky

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Sky Kershner, 304-346-9689 x13
Kanawha Pastoral Counseling
www.kpcc.com

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Sky Kershner, 304-346-9689 x13
Kanawha Pastoral Counseling
www.kpcc.com

KPCC News - August 2009

Kanawha Pastoral Counseling
Charleston, West Virginia      304-346-9689  
Aug 2009
 

kpcc.com	Counseling We help ordinary people in extra-ordinary circumstances. Find out how to help a friend in need:  click here
	Dent Dinner Good Health and Good Humor, Tuesday, Oct 20, 2009, Embassy Suites. Our entertainer will be the humorist, Anthony Griffith. A benefit for KPCC See a clip of his humor at our webpage: click here
	First Day of School is a Big Deal! Child Specialist, Sabrina Rollins, is interviewed by Bill Lynch in the Sunday Gazzette-Mail. More ...
	Building Bridges Rabbi Vistor Urecki, Rev Sky Kershner, Rev Ron English, Imam Ehteshamul Haque sharing lunch together.
	Jeanne K Cochran shares stories and wisdom about everyday life at www.jeannek.com
	Kanawha Pastoral Counseling Center KPCC is an accredited, faith-sensitive, counseling center with a staff of seven licensed counselors. We have office locations in Charleston, Cabin Creek, Ravenswood, and Chapmanville, West Virginia. 304-346-9689
kpcc.com	Helping clients find their way Counseling        Coaching         Communication     Crisis Recovery   About us            Programs           Locations          Contact us

 

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Sky Kershner, 304-346-9689 x13
Kanawha Pastoral Counseling
www.kpcc.com

KPCC News - May 2009

May 2009

	Welcome Jeanne K! KPCC is glad to welcome our new Business Manager, Jeanne K Cochran, formerly of radio station V100! Miss her voice? You can still hear her uplifting stories at www.jeannek.com
	Counseling Spring cleaning your life? We can help! We help people have better relationships with themselves and with others. We help ordinary people in extra-ordinary circumstances.
	Dent Dinner This year's Jim Dent, celebrating Good Health and Good Humor, will be Tuesday, Oct 20, 2009 at the Embassy Suites. Our entertainer will be the humorist, Anthony Griffith. See a clip of his humor at our webpage: click here
	Communication KPCC has been awarded a grant from the Sisters of St Joseph Ministries Fund to teach our Compassionate Communication program in area schools. Would you like your school to be involved? Let us know! 304-346-9689

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Freinds Building Bridges

Rabbi Victor Urecki, Rev Sky Kershner , Rev Ron English, Imam Ehteshamul Haque